Being in a Safe Space

When I was a teenager I was really self-conscious about the sound of myself peeing in the bathroom. I used to try disguise the sound by putting paper in the bowl etc. Over the years though, I noticed & appreciated the confidence of older women who just.. pee’d! They would continue conversations through the stall walls & not give a moments thought to the sound of their pee - it astounded me! Once I realised this, I also realised how silly I’d been to be so anxious about something so normal that all women did. But it was only through being in this safe space, with other older women around me, that I learnt to overcome my own anxieties.


Anonymous aged 35

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